I found a post I had written when my son was young. It's a great reflection post to read and share...
Several months ago I wrote this post describing what no one told me about becoming a mom. My baby recently turned one and I am so thankful we made it through that first year. Although most of those hard times are behind us, I think we trade them for other challenges. One of the biggest challenges I face is feeling guilty.
As moms, we often let ourselves believe that when our child is hurt or doesn't succeed, we are failing. My prayerful goal for 2013 is that I won't allow myself to believe those lies and that you won't, either. So next time those negative thoughts start to creep in, remind yourself that...
When you child falls down, you are still a good mom.
When your child get sick, you are still a good mom.
When your child throws a tantrum, you are still a good mom.
Whether you have a career or stay home, you are a good mom.
When there is oatmeal on the kitchen floor and it has been there for three days, you are still a good mom.
When frozen pizza becomes a basic food group, you are still a good mom.
When the kids are screaming, the dog is barking, the smoke detector is going off, and someone is knocking on the door, you are still a good mom.
When you want some alone time, you are still a good mom.
When your birthday party isn't Pinterest worthy, you are still a good mom.
When your child isn't potty trained, you're still a good mom.
When some days are just hard and you put on Daniel Tiger and walk away, you're still a good mom.
When your husband comes home to a messy house, an un-showered wife, and screaming kids, you are still a good mom.
When I think about my childhood, I don't remember every meal my mom made, how clean the house was, or homemade decorations she made for birthday parties. I do remember her holding me when I fell, eating pizza on the living room floor in the middle of a thunderstorm, and spending lazy days watching movies. I remember falling asleep on the couch and being carried to my bed. I remember laughing with my mom and I remember crying with her.
"Mommy guilt" is real. Today you may be feeling like a bad mom. But know this - regardless of the chaos surrounding you and your household..... YOU are a good mom.
Now if you'll excuse me, I have some oatmeal to clean up...
As moms, we often let ourselves believe that when our child is hurt or doesn't succeed, we are failing. My prayerful goal for 2013 is that I won't allow myself to believe those lies and that you won't, either. So next time those negative thoughts start to creep in, remind yourself that...
When you child falls down, you are still a good mom.
When your child get sick, you are still a good mom.
When your child throws a tantrum, you are still a good mom.
Whether you have a career or stay home, you are a good mom.
When there is oatmeal on the kitchen floor and it has been there for three days, you are still a good mom.
When frozen pizza becomes a basic food group, you are still a good mom.
When the kids are screaming, the dog is barking, the smoke detector is going off, and someone is knocking on the door, you are still a good mom.
When you want some alone time, you are still a good mom.
When your birthday party isn't Pinterest worthy, you are still a good mom.
When your child isn't potty trained, you're still a good mom.
When some days are just hard and you put on Daniel Tiger and walk away, you're still a good mom.
When your husband comes home to a messy house, an un-showered wife, and screaming kids, you are still a good mom.
When I think about my childhood, I don't remember every meal my mom made, how clean the house was, or homemade decorations she made for birthday parties. I do remember her holding me when I fell, eating pizza on the living room floor in the middle of a thunderstorm, and spending lazy days watching movies. I remember falling asleep on the couch and being carried to my bed. I remember laughing with my mom and I remember crying with her.
"Mommy guilt" is real. Today you may be feeling like a bad mom. But know this - regardless of the chaos surrounding you and your household..... YOU are a good mom.
Now if you'll excuse me, I have some oatmeal to clean up...
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